
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,69Please respect copyright.PENANAG5AFHIsGtg
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,69Please respect copyright.PENANAVAWDz2zZFW
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。69Please respect copyright.PENANAJtWgevSTr9
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,69Please respect copyright.PENANA9dNgr2q3oF
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,69Please respect copyright.PENANA4mVQVn5ZrY
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,69Please respect copyright.PENANAUPBH5HRhyK
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。69Please respect copyright.PENANAwpyBtackuf
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,69Please respect copyright.PENANAXp2jLdGVls
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。69Please respect copyright.PENANAXArnMFYYZh
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。69Please respect copyright.PENANAyWvIwUoBDC
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那隻驢子本來不用死,69Please respect copyright.PENANAIyBfwMGOgQ
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。69Please respect copyright.PENANAhA8WhnvsCU
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,69Please respect copyright.PENANARBMkTI0Ha0
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,69Please respect copyright.PENANAR2eTQWfEWt
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,69Please respect copyright.PENANAzEoo7NVadt
以免自取其辱。69Please respect copyright.PENANAjDhLo3xyXH
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,69Please respect copyright.PENANAXPXhQWc0Pd
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,69Please respect copyright.PENANARZVHj7iK8K
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,69Please respect copyright.PENANAu7zwy3nVTF
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。69Please respect copyright.PENANAWaz77jlOTp
就算不是萍水相逢,69Please respect copyright.PENANAO1GVqz2xNt
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,69Please respect copyright.PENANAqO4Qsji4Xt
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。69Please respect copyright.PENANAsYlfcUNzBu
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,69Please respect copyright.PENANAbNUdlMfbD5
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。69Please respect copyright.PENANAGYG6rQyqAF
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,69Please respect copyright.PENANAmAOTWzpIhG
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,69Please respect copyright.PENANABVXAMRzIzu
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,69Please respect copyright.PENANAilNDekpjFK
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,69Please respect copyright.PENANAO78KkiK6Tg
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。69Please respect copyright.PENANAIanSg9dBXV
其實,69Please respect copyright.PENANAccA4WZy3Uz
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,69Please respect copyright.PENANArRP1dMWAxF
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。69Please respect copyright.PENANA5knHmXvtmm
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,69Please respect copyright.PENANAsf9PUAyHxn
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,69Please respect copyright.PENANAdiRWHpH1Hm
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,69Please respect copyright.PENANA9nWrbD7dSB
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,69Please respect copyright.PENANAebg5dBhMXt
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,69Please respect copyright.PENANAmljzjfZBxS
即是「第一印象」,69Please respect copyright.PENANAoMmLSZP3h8
這些教導大家都會說得到。69Please respect copyright.PENANArfGZmEVufV
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但不約而同地,69Please respect copyright.PENANAngXK4s0Wtq
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,69Please respect copyright.PENANAVjBN1SUTeN
不主動提及就視為不存在。69Please respect copyright.PENANA3NVPDWxMq1
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,69Please respect copyright.PENANAFGV0Og9TmY
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?69Please respect copyright.PENANAxEtIOArZ0r
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,69Please respect copyright.PENANAuHZulgT0tV
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,69Please respect copyright.PENANApbuFnLRYXe
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。69Please respect copyright.PENANAc1RHPLsDtf
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,69Please respect copyright.PENANA9e3wSI4jf5
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,69Please respect copyright.PENANAktV36UfIny
這不是我胡亂杜撰。69Please respect copyright.PENANA8m9098E1tW
如此的話,69Please respect copyright.PENANAWg7a3mJzsi
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?69Please respect copyright.PENANAUCGvQT5q09
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,69Please respect copyright.PENANAdAZgJxDtQT
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。69Please respect copyright.PENANA0H8GpsUN3k
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不過,69Please respect copyright.PENANAaxRGhB400o
鍾仁宇更大的錯,69Please respect copyright.PENANArA8vt3fop8
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,69Please respect copyright.PENANAB06dQgd4HF
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,69Please respect copyright.PENANAYrAaApo5ck
反而令到感情生活更豐富。69Please respect copyright.PENANA2VwCHT8H71
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,69Please respect copyright.PENANAh4KSuDvjBl
又怎會落得被利用的下場?69Please respect copyright.PENANAF9hkfixRJr
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,69Please respect copyright.PENANAm1RLqd2S7n
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,69Please respect copyright.PENANA790eCWP6as
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,69Please respect copyright.PENANALIoHd2zLux
我無十分認真看過這電影,69Please respect copyright.PENANAcNjWArfZIB
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。69Please respect copyright.PENANAD9XaK2W25x
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。69Please respect copyright.PENANATaTYNLKI3w
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讀者們,69Please respect copyright.PENANA24UFoKiqtI
如果你是鍾仁宇,69Please respect copyright.PENANAGF1WGgCBNw
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?69Please respect copyright.PENANAUzzjyDS0N8
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》69Please respect copyright.PENANAOLkGTRGGgq
戀愛心理,第四回。