
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,66Please respect copyright.PENANAfvQlkJ0mvd
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,66Please respect copyright.PENANAoBaBr3tz5U
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。66Please respect copyright.PENANAsqM3ePZyBN
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,66Please respect copyright.PENANAxLfqmQhTD9
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,66Please respect copyright.PENANAwA32vSx0Q7
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,66Please respect copyright.PENANAqH3QkWUQrD
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。66Please respect copyright.PENANAxMwCJdjUt2
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,66Please respect copyright.PENANAiR8wryZ0Ai
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。66Please respect copyright.PENANAls9B4opMSp
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。66Please respect copyright.PENANAeadi2urOC4
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那隻驢子本來不用死,66Please respect copyright.PENANAq9eiqimu8A
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。66Please respect copyright.PENANAiCCX95hnkl
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,66Please respect copyright.PENANAJSqfnr1MTG
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,66Please respect copyright.PENANAnPeh9n3fSR
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,66Please respect copyright.PENANAioPPS6BHE2
以免自取其辱。66Please respect copyright.PENANAvNRU7cA0rd
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,66Please respect copyright.PENANAsKAzeeTcLZ
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,66Please respect copyright.PENANAUNHKwEiAgW
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,66Please respect copyright.PENANA9KXZA8Uhyr
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。66Please respect copyright.PENANA4jpxXzcHRK
就算不是萍水相逢,66Please respect copyright.PENANA6fh8LU7WJ5
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,66Please respect copyright.PENANAhVSd4585ds
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。66Please respect copyright.PENANArDn31AlBL8
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,66Please respect copyright.PENANAA1n1Mi5ub6
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。66Please respect copyright.PENANASuD7XepR7g
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,66Please respect copyright.PENANAfMABGcaNFl
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,66Please respect copyright.PENANAMDLwA8Qc3H
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,66Please respect copyright.PENANAom6gh8A9pR
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,66Please respect copyright.PENANAhXA31MUyRS
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。66Please respect copyright.PENANAhW5a7V5rGj
其實,66Please respect copyright.PENANALwKVA6du2X
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,66Please respect copyright.PENANAI85wKK9Wl4
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。66Please respect copyright.PENANAczeUGZX4Ts
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,66Please respect copyright.PENANAsvFxTlsXUz
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,66Please respect copyright.PENANAozGuDGAZzm
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,66Please respect copyright.PENANAyl7bYSTaFU
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,66Please respect copyright.PENANAQcK3VXGGvD
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,66Please respect copyright.PENANA3LzmwAlmUw
即是「第一印象」,66Please respect copyright.PENANAud9PyFAOzx
這些教導大家都會說得到。66Please respect copyright.PENANAqrlVAII8TX
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但不約而同地,66Please respect copyright.PENANAhQ9P6gB6if
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,66Please respect copyright.PENANA3o5XRnk99F
不主動提及就視為不存在。66Please respect copyright.PENANAWhvR3ga8VM
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,66Please respect copyright.PENANAMvDr6atQVU
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?66Please respect copyright.PENANAsSACcZ2FjR
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,66Please respect copyright.PENANAWVlPkjOFGy
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,66Please respect copyright.PENANAkYZiUX35kg
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。66Please respect copyright.PENANA5ILEmav8gL
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,66Please respect copyright.PENANAPDstVvh4Av
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,66Please respect copyright.PENANAHvv1TLjD66
這不是我胡亂杜撰。66Please respect copyright.PENANAGRLnf7o7SF
如此的話,66Please respect copyright.PENANAlq7pM5eqkd
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?66Please respect copyright.PENANAu98PifuNNk
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,66Please respect copyright.PENANA02yqQjst2S
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。66Please respect copyright.PENANAgDqH0CzCOY
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不過,66Please respect copyright.PENANAookjI5Oktk
鍾仁宇更大的錯,66Please respect copyright.PENANAgy7F3Lhp3Q
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,66Please respect copyright.PENANAasObbYrRMe
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,66Please respect copyright.PENANAB1s9yyMLS9
反而令到感情生活更豐富。66Please respect copyright.PENANASSAyI1wdko
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,66Please respect copyright.PENANAcPLTKMiBfi
又怎會落得被利用的下場?66Please respect copyright.PENANAhoJo1Utc1d
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,66Please respect copyright.PENANAbQRCkcK0RI
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,66Please respect copyright.PENANAzQ44cEvy29
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,66Please respect copyright.PENANAt0KfC5V7J0
我無十分認真看過這電影,66Please respect copyright.PENANA1X9538Bl8u
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。66Please respect copyright.PENANAkhBBJuUoiS
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。66Please respect copyright.PENANAZkWxMNIGZ6
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讀者們,66Please respect copyright.PENANA9ey4OetxUh
如果你是鍾仁宇,66Please respect copyright.PENANAkkyEoGYTuD
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?66Please respect copyright.PENANAWuoA8usFKx
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》66Please respect copyright.PENANAWUcG7Xt0cO
戀愛心理,第四回。