
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,81Please respect copyright.PENANANZqgbbknDZ
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,81Please respect copyright.PENANApPMGaA1hNf
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。81Please respect copyright.PENANARuM1YrLoSG
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,81Please respect copyright.PENANAv2yhHn5irq
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,81Please respect copyright.PENANAOhYZNsNN0k
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,81Please respect copyright.PENANANlcsHO2EAo
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。81Please respect copyright.PENANA2eUKI8sFoY
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,81Please respect copyright.PENANA4jFV5xehiQ
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。81Please respect copyright.PENANAQNTljF08RR
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。81Please respect copyright.PENANAKvoRs4KkP0
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那隻驢子本來不用死,81Please respect copyright.PENANAgWq033Wsox
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。81Please respect copyright.PENANAraCmIjEx2R
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,81Please respect copyright.PENANAKgu3jw75kR
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,81Please respect copyright.PENANANY9RkP1nxN
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,81Please respect copyright.PENANAMTMZOm88w4
以免自取其辱。81Please respect copyright.PENANAjOGEyuvxEJ
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,81Please respect copyright.PENANAoORDVxr89y
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,81Please respect copyright.PENANATI8aoAgeBi
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,81Please respect copyright.PENANAl23QCBc5Gy
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。81Please respect copyright.PENANAqEB8k7OAeG
就算不是萍水相逢,81Please respect copyright.PENANAWTtLbpUg6w
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,81Please respect copyright.PENANAVqzXsXW2n2
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。81Please respect copyright.PENANAa83jZ0p3aH
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,81Please respect copyright.PENANAANpDWcquOF
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。81Please respect copyright.PENANAvI9VgVRRLr
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,81Please respect copyright.PENANApiA6zN9HdC
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,81Please respect copyright.PENANAqrmUCO2ZeV
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,81Please respect copyright.PENANAq030sX52s1
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,81Please respect copyright.PENANAtvySgpgeAe
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。81Please respect copyright.PENANASbLhjZZyGH
其實,81Please respect copyright.PENANAOz8yoGpQ6l
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,81Please respect copyright.PENANANDZtqZhjqV
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。81Please respect copyright.PENANAleOJGLzGLa
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,81Please respect copyright.PENANAkxJRsyn3If
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,81Please respect copyright.PENANAPREC5IM0OE
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,81Please respect copyright.PENANAhT5J2047gA
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,81Please respect copyright.PENANAWSgGSpPdUo
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,81Please respect copyright.PENANAcsFWP857EK
即是「第一印象」,81Please respect copyright.PENANA0pFPOcI1k8
這些教導大家都會說得到。81Please respect copyright.PENANAwdwg53LYmb
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但不約而同地,81Please respect copyright.PENANADw6gidUdsb
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,81Please respect copyright.PENANABNMEPUckmL
不主動提及就視為不存在。81Please respect copyright.PENANA8leuVBdP5P
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,81Please respect copyright.PENANA5V75tQVTGh
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?81Please respect copyright.PENANA2eBnu059sI
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,81Please respect copyright.PENANA20HP4dq6nR
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,81Please respect copyright.PENANAmP0tAAbfQN
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。81Please respect copyright.PENANAXJgQEg3fTC
81Please respect copyright.PENANATIksDuDOru
我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,81Please respect copyright.PENANAUsGEWjlYWB
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,81Please respect copyright.PENANAdY0Y3gxOju
這不是我胡亂杜撰。81Please respect copyright.PENANAVAIVBFrXmS
如此的話,81Please respect copyright.PENANAZkxL0mnZAr
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?81Please respect copyright.PENANALXtoZYdjoC
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,81Please respect copyright.PENANAdeA9joeOch
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。81Please respect copyright.PENANAVyoMoo4Kd5
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不過,81Please respect copyright.PENANApvAAoF9ZDB
鍾仁宇更大的錯,81Please respect copyright.PENANA7XytVbe4bu
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,81Please respect copyright.PENANAWodloH3DJ5
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,81Please respect copyright.PENANAcefGITpOIX
反而令到感情生活更豐富。81Please respect copyright.PENANA3oKLD9UECp
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,81Please respect copyright.PENANAvfn7Ev7Pzm
又怎會落得被利用的下場?81Please respect copyright.PENANAYykAdtHbJ8
81Please respect copyright.PENANAtYDLY6gZxx
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,81Please respect copyright.PENANAjAKahG3TEH
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,81Please respect copyright.PENANAZeDZhsxp1w
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,81Please respect copyright.PENANALhwjlZ6aaJ
我無十分認真看過這電影,81Please respect copyright.PENANAku95YUysIZ
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。81Please respect copyright.PENANA1zsnguf64a
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。81Please respect copyright.PENANACdAjjpqSFZ
81Please respect copyright.PENANA18g7kqKvtM
讀者們,81Please respect copyright.PENANAKnR0PzXrJH
如果你是鍾仁宇,81Please respect copyright.PENANAO9jq8gvlkT
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?81Please respect copyright.PENANAttjgoZGEjR
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》81Please respect copyright.PENANA4FmG7P4Zes
戀愛心理,第四回。