
從一般人的理解入面,82Please respect copyright.PENANABrcv4tDJER
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。82Please respect copyright.PENANAdE67I1OeTN
82Please respect copyright.PENANAddRyhJhWR1
不過,82Please respect copyright.PENANAGkZcrXrmMH
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,82Please respect copyright.PENANAfmwhPhbtt2
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。82Please respect copyright.PENANAlHmdhBgC5X
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)82Please respect copyright.PENANA5bAdPhIDTi
經文來自約伯記16章4節:82Please respect copyright.PENANAimy5YBQQnM
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語82Please respect copyright.PENANAEr7XM9KPQm
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」82Please respect copyright.PENANAQkGsw2PAFl
82Please respect copyright.PENANAF4iO5IVy0M
約伯處身於苦難的當中,82Please respect copyright.PENANA8iFncIVQjM
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,82Please respect copyright.PENANAXNNvIXP4A9
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,82Please respect copyright.PENANAd7Tr2pkDTV
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。82Please respect copyright.PENANAuSmKXpxx7G
82Please respect copyright.PENANA1MJNi9OFUk
Message版就譯得更清楚:82Please respect copyright.PENANAzazY9AUVRW
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」82Please respect copyright.PENANAQQkQepaV8o
82Please respect copyright.PENANAiGoRpANrze
為何約伯感到極其失望?82Please respect copyright.PENANATAA4GDS72S
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,82Please respect copyright.PENANAn7Y2EPFslB
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,82Please respect copyright.PENANA6Esa4uQc4E
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。82Please respect copyright.PENANA5yCuw8fqgl
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?82Please respect copyright.PENANAfsFDGdGLFR
82Please respect copyright.PENANA4YYTK7gAjn
無論是信徒還是非信徒,82Please respect copyright.PENANA1AgzcHh9D5
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,82Please respect copyright.PENANAPDEtv2vWSX
亦是最難掌握的。82Please respect copyright.PENANAMpwkb6jRJs
82Please respect copyright.PENANAlqoMw2J8Kq
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,82Please respect copyright.PENANAH0fc5ECURn
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,82Please respect copyright.PENANA5T1AV11MlH
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,82Please respect copyright.PENANAyow4pNxwRR
卻是全部跳過忽略,82Please respect copyright.PENANAyq9bWWGWRb
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,82Please respect copyright.PENANAxhkBIIs3iY
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。82Please respect copyright.PENANAcyqPAnRlWa
82Please respect copyright.PENANAgC9chPXrCP
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,82Please respect copyright.PENANAtJwEBCFR91
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,82Please respect copyright.PENANAAZiTY1GlJA
它分為四個區域:82Please respect copyright.PENANAqjaDJdAcYJ
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)82Please respect copyright.PENANA9IbcbKZNdV
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)82Please respect copyright.PENANAFy8XQvKOxA
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)82Please respect copyright.PENANAFZITq80uh0
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)82Please respect copyright.PENANAXkWjFNlMRz
82Please respect copyright.PENANAF3cd5VTQCU
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:82Please respect copyright.PENANAiR8mhzkQVq
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?82Please respect copyright.PENANADrLids03gt
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,82Please respect copyright.PENANAeRArMgdMWv
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?82Please respect copyright.PENANAqVTTCbBQY3
82Please respect copyright.PENANAmISjjGP741
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,82Please respect copyright.PENANAGEwI1cp6l4
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?82Please respect copyright.PENANAFgA7C5TWhH
82Please respect copyright.PENANAzqIODSIsoo
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》82Please respect copyright.PENANAd56iGSvFrH
戀愛心理,第三回。