
從一般人的理解入面,107Please respect copyright.PENANAcr12l7n9AC
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。107Please respect copyright.PENANAavuBsTglUZ
107Please respect copyright.PENANAgJXE9ZgiwN
不過,107Please respect copyright.PENANAh74QvxIOiD
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,107Please respect copyright.PENANAB53j2hfsqK
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。107Please respect copyright.PENANAvE2Kvy2syv
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)107Please respect copyright.PENANAfInnc7ABxB
經文來自約伯記16章4節:107Please respect copyright.PENANAzQWpOxIYKI
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語107Please respect copyright.PENANACRrZTVr9NT
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」107Please respect copyright.PENANAp7xt2EI99X
107Please respect copyright.PENANAt4NedNUv8a
約伯處身於苦難的當中,107Please respect copyright.PENANA6nAqWvkz3Y
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,107Please respect copyright.PENANAVL63zHZBZu
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,107Please respect copyright.PENANASVEyMcq7ui
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。107Please respect copyright.PENANArdUwWfMxuu
107Please respect copyright.PENANAwQFPDhobYI
Message版就譯得更清楚:107Please respect copyright.PENANAlSUsX4RM6E
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」107Please respect copyright.PENANAcgplmYhH0U
107Please respect copyright.PENANAYhyrxHRK96
為何約伯感到極其失望?107Please respect copyright.PENANAlsf8LKggqN
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,107Please respect copyright.PENANAR7yknCfvWo
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,107Please respect copyright.PENANAgNcvj3UqXN
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。107Please respect copyright.PENANAQdCDXCu0RP
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?107Please respect copyright.PENANATmceKWYADA
107Please respect copyright.PENANAsJDl55YGV2
無論是信徒還是非信徒,107Please respect copyright.PENANADRSmnTIIVl
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,107Please respect copyright.PENANAB7HlEgahkA
亦是最難掌握的。107Please respect copyright.PENANAZgDWCLdCSH
107Please respect copyright.PENANAC9AuHbtBzg
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,107Please respect copyright.PENANAZUQeFUOpdP
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,107Please respect copyright.PENANAd4XSk8NI8s
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,107Please respect copyright.PENANAFAK0popi6H
卻是全部跳過忽略,107Please respect copyright.PENANA06aXP1fH40
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,107Please respect copyright.PENANA5sycYQ62T8
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。107Please respect copyright.PENANANmsVVwdfhM
107Please respect copyright.PENANAOOCYjOSIHT
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,107Please respect copyright.PENANAvpbN8GudO2
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,107Please respect copyright.PENANAszMi3ubVsX
它分為四個區域:107Please respect copyright.PENANAVWF0lr5ggO
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)107Please respect copyright.PENANACZCWMferPK
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)107Please respect copyright.PENANAjz6D1zbm3p
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)107Please respect copyright.PENANA7FO5qXVM4t
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)107Please respect copyright.PENANAmNrbPPUHW8
107Please respect copyright.PENANApsjexo52dr
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:107Please respect copyright.PENANATADtd3r86S
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?107Please respect copyright.PENANAmcTJRAX5ZZ
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,107Please respect copyright.PENANAy6pqWSB7XU
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?107Please respect copyright.PENANACHfl1XMUDH
107Please respect copyright.PENANAtj1VRiqnCu
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,107Please respect copyright.PENANA9ralhpl9B9
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?107Please respect copyright.PENANAswdlBc86TY
107Please respect copyright.PENANAH6GpUS5ESs
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》107Please respect copyright.PENANAGdqp39mH1E
戀愛心理,第三回。