
83Please respect copyright.PENANAE0QNmIO5tT
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,83Please respect copyright.PENANAoQ6HG92ViQ
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。83Please respect copyright.PENANABBRxmpTxWy
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,83Please respect copyright.PENANAR7NldEK0YV
利用大約45分鐘的時間,83Please respect copyright.PENANAKgCTT5ey4k
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,83Please respect copyright.PENANAiJy4prJAOa
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。83Please respect copyright.PENANAsB9h5mGnGq
這36條問題分為三組,83Please respect copyright.PENANAZwvOFrlxZu
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;83Please respect copyright.PENANA4v8l2P6qsx
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,83Please respect copyright.PENANAWg06q3ZWZS
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。83Please respect copyright.PENANAf992WAjR35
83Please respect copyright.PENANAh7VliwAT8i
事實上,83Please respect copyright.PENANAxiMpmfRi8X
出題的人很有機心,83Please respect copyright.PENANAn0oN4WQhUw
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,83Please respect copyright.PENANAJRhIYwmdwE
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,83Please respect copyright.PENANAinmONqBVL0
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。83Please respect copyright.PENANAh4cxZcdeI5
83Please respect copyright.PENANA5aWm7lT3sa
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。83Please respect copyright.PENANAUGqHPfWpDr
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:83Please respect copyright.PENANA63bfVSc6fw
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,83Please respect copyright.PENANADNa8DHoHPY
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。83Please respect copyright.PENANAZ1HHzYtjzf
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,83Please respect copyright.PENANACx0ofHySiL
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。83Please respect copyright.PENANA0EnoWPbOf3
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,83Please respect copyright.PENANA07tnA86TD8
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:83Please respect copyright.PENANA4NLvgFtknL
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出83Please respect copyright.PENANAE5QjmH5nKo
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點83Please respect copyright.PENANAFeLEAFd4uX
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解83Please respect copyright.PENANAdC1I7HAvwM
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,83Please respect copyright.PENANAWHlI7E7JkB
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,83Please respect copyright.PENANATXfoWyACUJ
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,83Please respect copyright.PENANAgiJKeVaJUl
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,83Please respect copyright.PENANAcr1JQ30aPp
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,83Please respect copyright.PENANAjo3xt2eVW4
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,83Please respect copyright.PENANAkbD89wn49d
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?83Please respect copyright.PENANA7Z7DSefcvW
83Please respect copyright.PENANA2PuRkQ1M82
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》83Please respect copyright.PENANADeBcmPB4T2
戀愛心理,第九回。83Please respect copyright.PENANAMcA4sFVhYo