
56Please respect copyright.PENANAxrnJFpGYfd
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,56Please respect copyright.PENANAlNRD4KUJ4L
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。56Please respect copyright.PENANAdJsM1yo2Q3
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,56Please respect copyright.PENANA5dxMJX6iu8
利用大約45分鐘的時間,56Please respect copyright.PENANAFLJU96U1jK
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,56Please respect copyright.PENANAfgNd5ML5eA
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。56Please respect copyright.PENANAexoNzXXxXh
這36條問題分為三組,56Please respect copyright.PENANAe7iDL8RT4e
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;56Please respect copyright.PENANA7ojZDymHYm
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,56Please respect copyright.PENANADa01W3T7VU
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。56Please respect copyright.PENANA6e3QEEx8hM
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事實上,56Please respect copyright.PENANAzzd2nD6GKx
出題的人很有機心,56Please respect copyright.PENANAdO5cPPKLjx
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,56Please respect copyright.PENANAAekrbUEW3H
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,56Please respect copyright.PENANA0o0ibIVJ7o
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。56Please respect copyright.PENANAJ6ILRgCyKZ
56Please respect copyright.PENANAQunQL0MkCa
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。56Please respect copyright.PENANAM21sGmUyE6
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:56Please respect copyright.PENANADOpQlGu6zp
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,56Please respect copyright.PENANAwgkIpFZf9g
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。56Please respect copyright.PENANApmU7WVbLt7
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,56Please respect copyright.PENANAdyJ0qfLII8
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。56Please respect copyright.PENANAJmviG4cni6
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,56Please respect copyright.PENANA5MH5a1Gp5o
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:56Please respect copyright.PENANAuT2vBOeXtD
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出56Please respect copyright.PENANAK9oRMg2u2Z
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點56Please respect copyright.PENANAQEkmOFWi07
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解56Please respect copyright.PENANABVn4KQBfXg
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,56Please respect copyright.PENANAIVR3rOaTbu
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,56Please respect copyright.PENANAM20nYy4gMS
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,56Please respect copyright.PENANAY6bz80Bi5Q
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,56Please respect copyright.PENANAgBofB7CmdN
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,56Please respect copyright.PENANAnC39KkyqBL
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,56Please respect copyright.PENANA0nbkAAEQA9
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?56Please respect copyright.PENANA1S4Z9UZH0W
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》56Please respect copyright.PENANAf9UwGtRLGN
戀愛心理,第九回。56Please respect copyright.PENANAs51ugCGSwJ