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從一般人的理解入面，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡehFjj16GBD
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡuOSeV34BVq
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不過，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡf6MyYUEgAU
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ1iJ82xYweu
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡG0sviUMJhN
(另參王下19：21；詩22：8；104：25；賽37：21；哀2：15)91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡpbHp2tWrKU
經文來自約伯記16章4節：91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡe1fXwsyzov
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇，我也會聯絡言語91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ344hOjC4x8
攻擊你們，又能向你們搖頭。」91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ7F9Q55mTit
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfey9P4FWXy
約伯處身於苦難的當中，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡSJjjFVCXpv
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡwfBdjeD14f
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪，說一些無關痛癢的說話，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmjBvW1LROa
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡkvA0PcaOUN
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡX7I6a4klTx
Message版就譯得更清楚：91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2OnCiJNwU1
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡH5ySePEaNF
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡPu2v46L7Hu
為何約伯感到極其失望？91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡyihwM852PS
因為這些朋友not in my shoes，即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡZs1L9Sk4ib
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2Lm8uojAFb
大家的channel根本完全不同，所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ1AwKBSnyfD
對於朋友們廉價的安慰，約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢？91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡaS7TsBVw5Z
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡXXgPNPcrKZ
無論是信徒還是非信徒，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡjjGGSt494d
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡgtTtU855QT
亦是最難掌握的。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡo1gokgtlQp
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡi5jqqoHO4w
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ7rs22rtfdt
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡwTDvzvFn2A
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmm4OujjAPN
卻是全部跳過忽略，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡEHzTEBya0P
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡGsf2jtcE1T
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8G2V9l7XV1
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡsb91STTf3e
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfMayAF1dCT
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡELyWnkFAWx
它分為四個區域：91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡxQUwJHqWgm
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8QAgHY250X
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具，但自己不知道)91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ3WrRN1tMHc
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具，而自己是知道)91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ4X7dBrYswz
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡGyrvLWrQVN
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡR43podYrsR
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我，心生疑問：91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ6I9or1vSDt
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力？91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfXtmL1vFZq
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」？若然對方未必接受到，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡuFvKEdcql0
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨？91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡhcchlimA0s
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡqH5fnC9poJ
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言，91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡuk00g3uhlR
「開放區」是祝福，還是詛咒？91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡpxGPSeQzJQ
91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ0HPr5YqP0y
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》91Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡYJMOEzWbl1
戀愛心理，第三回。
