
59Please respect copyright.PENANAnccg3hudmB
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,59Please respect copyright.PENANAEdyYEESrLX
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。59Please respect copyright.PENANAXQQ3kEqgpK
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,59Please respect copyright.PENANANZ3E8lT0aO
利用大約45分鐘的時間,59Please respect copyright.PENANA3BJaxDeEZH
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,59Please respect copyright.PENANAfGYpmCCmEu
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。59Please respect copyright.PENANAE7Wof5eAH4
這36條問題分為三組,59Please respect copyright.PENANA2tdMRyxpXv
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;59Please respect copyright.PENANACBJ6KRmUsU
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,59Please respect copyright.PENANAjRtSCbaea8
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。59Please respect copyright.PENANAEuQeG3TtUJ
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事實上,59Please respect copyright.PENANAxg5qR4IRY8
出題的人很有機心,59Please respect copyright.PENANAL9UseH1fII
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,59Please respect copyright.PENANAZcwDFRU3w7
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,59Please respect copyright.PENANAXnKptOTW2h
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。59Please respect copyright.PENANA1T1SAFPlnK
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電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。59Please respect copyright.PENANAOCuLfVTS9s
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:59Please respect copyright.PENANARcZEyai8Y1
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,59Please respect copyright.PENANAcE5UHrVIVN
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。59Please respect copyright.PENANAuVT1wTPjZD
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,59Please respect copyright.PENANA2wFjZ8CX1H
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。59Please respect copyright.PENANAT4cIQUBdAE
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,59Please respect copyright.PENANArF5Lzk3nHr
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:59Please respect copyright.PENANA05wQKftNhy
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出59Please respect copyright.PENANA9i5N1Adzk5
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點59Please respect copyright.PENANA8jRsCLlrcZ
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解59Please respect copyright.PENANABkfKOshtkP
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,59Please respect copyright.PENANAzCz6gr2tde
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,59Please respect copyright.PENANArT1IkyQ4Ti
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,59Please respect copyright.PENANAt5zaop8EQ3
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,59Please respect copyright.PENANAzObJ6Vzxwh
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,59Please respect copyright.PENANAZAbIw2y3Ze
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,59Please respect copyright.PENANACKJnd7UJpp
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?59Please respect copyright.PENANAbOuiAZoBO6
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》59Please respect copyright.PENANAEi2iynY8lX
戀愛心理,第九回。59Please respect copyright.PENANAbD2j6Tx06n