
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,70Please respect copyright.PENANAulsr13lcwD
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,70Please respect copyright.PENANAmCLy00GxLW
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。70Please respect copyright.PENANAJzNaFuE8mh
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,70Please respect copyright.PENANAWsORaP5533
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,70Please respect copyright.PENANAjZ6jCsgZRp
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,70Please respect copyright.PENANAEWNoQFZmxl
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。70Please respect copyright.PENANAbqloRM7i1R
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,70Please respect copyright.PENANAaIAIDmorqX
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。70Please respect copyright.PENANAQqVWCF5DdR
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。70Please respect copyright.PENANAgu616CR4CL
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那隻驢子本來不用死,70Please respect copyright.PENANAj8FLopTr7y
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。70Please respect copyright.PENANAui0C34nW7i
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,70Please respect copyright.PENANAPz9WoBsUds
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,70Please respect copyright.PENANAPJbg2ok9eT
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,70Please respect copyright.PENANAceXZikrKmy
以免自取其辱。70Please respect copyright.PENANAKng8oaHyWL
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,70Please respect copyright.PENANAW2C3c62wPb
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,70Please respect copyright.PENANADcJoyx4FZd
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,70Please respect copyright.PENANAaxPI4Gswh0
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。70Please respect copyright.PENANA9jKXI24FZ0
就算不是萍水相逢,70Please respect copyright.PENANAoJw7aFupWH
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,70Please respect copyright.PENANAz3I0WiYft2
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。70Please respect copyright.PENANAPkZ9eLT6hQ
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,70Please respect copyright.PENANAaJBI4Qy1Ta
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。70Please respect copyright.PENANAirJIk6HoWp
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,70Please respect copyright.PENANAJeKDurEA3G
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,70Please respect copyright.PENANAEGClpE4B2e
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,70Please respect copyright.PENANAUX1tgkpVte
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,70Please respect copyright.PENANA3ftJLaBw1R
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。70Please respect copyright.PENANADr1gH23bDf
其實,70Please respect copyright.PENANALVOLQStL7C
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,70Please respect copyright.PENANApfmVMSTWJj
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。70Please respect copyright.PENANA931nYxNeVg
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,70Please respect copyright.PENANAv0IUBBYB3O
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,70Please respect copyright.PENANAQyDtFU0weH
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,70Please respect copyright.PENANA7p4U20WU3P
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,70Please respect copyright.PENANAiCscqqTpSx
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,70Please respect copyright.PENANA9cqJEz2nKo
即是「第一印象」,70Please respect copyright.PENANAPCmIURknQ0
這些教導大家都會說得到。70Please respect copyright.PENANAQTbJ5PGSim
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但不約而同地,70Please respect copyright.PENANAQzVkFrBFBI
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,70Please respect copyright.PENANA5mre9mmXTv
不主動提及就視為不存在。70Please respect copyright.PENANAULBOvAr5oB
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,70Please respect copyright.PENANAgkPN2XVHDM
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?70Please respect copyright.PENANAP1DdHMQbTv
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,70Please respect copyright.PENANAeO4IXHFA8L
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,70Please respect copyright.PENANAdOhZaZ5XVY
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。70Please respect copyright.PENANAkY9CrJ0Fck
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,70Please respect copyright.PENANAYtJCPu1Ku3
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,70Please respect copyright.PENANAqJhAwFCPbZ
這不是我胡亂杜撰。70Please respect copyright.PENANAjtWOoV6mp2
如此的話,70Please respect copyright.PENANA9sZmPd4has
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?70Please respect copyright.PENANAA22q3TRVFb
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,70Please respect copyright.PENANAqcccu5ACXb
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。70Please respect copyright.PENANArHR2EJyIap
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不過,70Please respect copyright.PENANAmTvaKVA6j3
鍾仁宇更大的錯,70Please respect copyright.PENANATV6MQG4DHI
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,70Please respect copyright.PENANA18rviDvzI3
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,70Please respect copyright.PENANANGElbu9ZZJ
反而令到感情生活更豐富。70Please respect copyright.PENANA2NOINFd3H8
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,70Please respect copyright.PENANALIxcyURdvm
又怎會落得被利用的下場?70Please respect copyright.PENANAbQLPuT4WtZ
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,70Please respect copyright.PENANAiO3aB3DoPL
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,70Please respect copyright.PENANARjvwrP0Qbx
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,70Please respect copyright.PENANAz6U0paMiAY
我無十分認真看過這電影,70Please respect copyright.PENANAQT1bLIcw29
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。70Please respect copyright.PENANAgebjm6AWmf
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。70Please respect copyright.PENANAC4t6qtFXcs
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讀者們,70Please respect copyright.PENANAtOoLPuu5rr
如果你是鍾仁宇,70Please respect copyright.PENANAE2acG0Lyaj
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?70Please respect copyright.PENANALz6kbdR27Q
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》70Please respect copyright.PENANAxeR6mnC7l7
戀愛心理,第四回。