
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,71Please respect copyright.PENANAIIp558H4aJ
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,71Please respect copyright.PENANAWiJSGvfT2o
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。71Please respect copyright.PENANAhn64uNbguR
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,71Please respect copyright.PENANAq5dO7AhKDT
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,71Please respect copyright.PENANA7wkiUGVDWu
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,71Please respect copyright.PENANAdcqNmCyVDo
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。71Please respect copyright.PENANAtSWlCYOrn8
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,71Please respect copyright.PENANA2GuBVDJSfR
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。71Please respect copyright.PENANAbYcyNFFLIs
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。71Please respect copyright.PENANASpvuRzdfQN
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那隻驢子本來不用死,71Please respect copyright.PENANA8F4s3YlSoz
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。71Please respect copyright.PENANA6EBQJQHLsx
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,71Please respect copyright.PENANADKoQt8J80v
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,71Please respect copyright.PENANAPW6BcEh2TY
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,71Please respect copyright.PENANAmQnIQynNSC
以免自取其辱。71Please respect copyright.PENANAKxqmaPYW81
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,71Please respect copyright.PENANAkfurjC1KOS
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,71Please respect copyright.PENANAwp4InIsFT8
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,71Please respect copyright.PENANA71cmg71rdo
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。71Please respect copyright.PENANAz5xGPVD5r3
就算不是萍水相逢,71Please respect copyright.PENANAsm8pr7dkOm
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,71Please respect copyright.PENANADMzHZNyb8e
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。71Please respect copyright.PENANAiL7Ka880eJ
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,71Please respect copyright.PENANAD4iHxZdZuM
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。71Please respect copyright.PENANAKWrYn0ypaW
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,71Please respect copyright.PENANAXH6EdD6LnZ
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,71Please respect copyright.PENANANU4Q3TIBVH
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,71Please respect copyright.PENANA1XyPW07Jar
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,71Please respect copyright.PENANADGAMwNw0df
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。71Please respect copyright.PENANAoU7eTy7oKt
其實,71Please respect copyright.PENANAL3KTwBePZR
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,71Please respect copyright.PENANAtQvvLXj2ev
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。71Please respect copyright.PENANAkKXt2mqgaY
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,71Please respect copyright.PENANAXR922PZ35g
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,71Please respect copyright.PENANArdjQ5WUF96
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,71Please respect copyright.PENANAjb7zZkroVe
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,71Please respect copyright.PENANAVbVpmNX0PJ
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,71Please respect copyright.PENANAcJQhpIPzDy
即是「第一印象」,71Please respect copyright.PENANADNZpykLcZ5
這些教導大家都會說得到。71Please respect copyright.PENANA5r0DZgfVyQ
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但不約而同地,71Please respect copyright.PENANAnO3m80eMbs
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,71Please respect copyright.PENANAqexZjEktwd
不主動提及就視為不存在。71Please respect copyright.PENANAgF6T9Ds0Js
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,71Please respect copyright.PENANAJLBLVWVF0n
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?71Please respect copyright.PENANAzLeFDOdxzs
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,71Please respect copyright.PENANAsYND0YqZrP
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,71Please respect copyright.PENANAy2XvG2vqTo
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。71Please respect copyright.PENANAsQGWn3Nn3Y
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,71Please respect copyright.PENANAsMJsnPLRUf
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,71Please respect copyright.PENANAI1YVh0Q66i
這不是我胡亂杜撰。71Please respect copyright.PENANA8O4QMbUGUK
如此的話,71Please respect copyright.PENANA1khU6ZrCP9
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?71Please respect copyright.PENANAcnNqjAcc3N
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,71Please respect copyright.PENANADdjZogvsYk
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。71Please respect copyright.PENANAJHiR6ga6Ql
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不過,71Please respect copyright.PENANAxwAm3FCZgx
鍾仁宇更大的錯,71Please respect copyright.PENANAys5run0HsW
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,71Please respect copyright.PENANAs2owBzZD8U
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,71Please respect copyright.PENANA0ppKLO6uGa
反而令到感情生活更豐富。71Please respect copyright.PENANAXaXk6yxb00
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,71Please respect copyright.PENANA11iP1vVZwk
又怎會落得被利用的下場?71Please respect copyright.PENANAIqMml9w9vJ
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,71Please respect copyright.PENANA0GWLSznN4K
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,71Please respect copyright.PENANAyZCHDxwza1
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,71Please respect copyright.PENANAJobLZirm8K
我無十分認真看過這電影,71Please respect copyright.PENANAnLLiL72NXC
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。71Please respect copyright.PENANAep3jQ03qdk
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。71Please respect copyright.PENANAZzSxqJ9o30
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讀者們,71Please respect copyright.PENANAAgL8N3ROE0
如果你是鍾仁宇,71Please respect copyright.PENANA5jfZlT5ASx
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?71Please respect copyright.PENANADDB6lSuy3L
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》71Please respect copyright.PENANACagfktU8mn
戀愛心理,第四回。