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從一般人的理解入面，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡJgrkeW9nsb
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2qiUeUUFj4
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡE5PaDnt5MS
不過，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡDiXrJRfAvU
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡkUmGDSnbEI
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡWTWTgHT25K
(另參王下19：21；詩22：8；104：25；賽37：21；哀2：15)92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡZF0PgC739U
經文來自約伯記16章4節：92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡzgYmxvJBjV
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇，我也會聯絡言語92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ7rd8k8Vo86
攻擊你們，又能向你們搖頭。」92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmqipK7EB0l
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡjped1u2kGl
約伯處身於苦難的當中，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8IoKaCdY5e
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡgcEWTSDzZD
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪，說一些無關痛癢的說話，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡdW1JZnTqGs
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡsykLylmNmE
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡqw4Eojtxxn
Message版就譯得更清楚：92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡimMdAENiKv
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2eTaoLFMmx
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡEOpKJ1agy4
為何約伯感到極其失望？92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ3QvONOA7Kk
因為這些朋友not in my shoes，即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡiOE6TgUIfq
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡJK4Zc4hxtZ
大家的channel根本完全不同，所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ4nxahWwV8B
對於朋友們廉價的安慰，約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢？92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ0tjPnK2IBf
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡnQlCI2dhH8
無論是信徒還是非信徒，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ45SBKcbpV7
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡYGWqXEoLai
亦是最難掌握的。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ5J7GJvIKAc
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡeqBHS1XstT
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡa4b1BI8wuP
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2qMlLYamnZ
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡe6K2TfLgAB
卻是全部跳過忽略，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡXFGjk6ViKF
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8icqsNnj44
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8zM8DrZyXu
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡkpysNXWEvI
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡYWsZa6uRlh
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡhvrn1q5JIH
它分為四個區域：92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡVVJlTJ6MOp
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2HZPkIxjW5
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具，但自己不知道)92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ0OaNq9v4wG
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具，而自己是知道)92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡOZ6YiE9HH0
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡF3CEKSYdr0
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡokE9aKsewp
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我，心生疑問：92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡMw32ErAXjT
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力？92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡk2ANOGxFxB
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」？若然對方未必接受到，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡTVXqEdd7TG
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨？92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡnwSepCZtqq
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ4B9PE5xw7g
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言，92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡHpQ44220HZ
「開放區」是祝福，還是詛咒？92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡLx2tJnyA8f
92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡlxUa4tfcaP
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》92Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡFAzNMQrCJR
戀愛心理，第三回。
