
70Please respect copyright.PENANALs1Ci7nxCs
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,70Please respect copyright.PENANAMukCv4S602
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。70Please respect copyright.PENANARF8bT7ke3R
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,70Please respect copyright.PENANAHOIqWEUhLs
利用大約45分鐘的時間,70Please respect copyright.PENANA8D5JXWJNli
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,70Please respect copyright.PENANAlYMghbKhB8
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。70Please respect copyright.PENANAAjG3agqidM
這36條問題分為三組,70Please respect copyright.PENANAGz8iMi57Oq
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;70Please respect copyright.PENANAd9RsdGGToD
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,70Please respect copyright.PENANAInmu9mlD3i
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。70Please respect copyright.PENANAGtQbT0suCE
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事實上,70Please respect copyright.PENANAI6iudMvq9O
出題的人很有機心,70Please respect copyright.PENANABzbUgK4THs
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,70Please respect copyright.PENANA5EDtuFi13L
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,70Please respect copyright.PENANAT120xysYpn
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。70Please respect copyright.PENANAWDzkDShiYE
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電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。70Please respect copyright.PENANAnCP3xh0vHX
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:70Please respect copyright.PENANA2NOnxde9sc
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,70Please respect copyright.PENANAPNwGVqceXW
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。70Please respect copyright.PENANArzwX8GDLKi
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,70Please respect copyright.PENANANabhA6PawT
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。70Please respect copyright.PENANAiLl8B7xWs5
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,70Please respect copyright.PENANATFMucNw6my
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:70Please respect copyright.PENANA77AGky1QFh
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出70Please respect copyright.PENANAzX1sRluxzt
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點70Please respect copyright.PENANAK3foMWKxXh
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解70Please respect copyright.PENANAxT6vNuUizy
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,70Please respect copyright.PENANAlyFKCpMe6m
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,70Please respect copyright.PENANABbHfV7XGK2
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,70Please respect copyright.PENANANe4BJiJ8mT
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,70Please respect copyright.PENANAgrKgPtV5db
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,70Please respect copyright.PENANAqq2JI6PRzC
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,70Please respect copyright.PENANAEgyCHEajQn
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?70Please respect copyright.PENANAbcD9m2yXbp
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》70Please respect copyright.PENANAehAdebiM2M
戀愛心理,第九回。70Please respect copyright.PENANAS5tySsOvcR