
54Please respect copyright.PENANAMtEVmfjjzu
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,54Please respect copyright.PENANAhcM5lBNzHr
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。54Please respect copyright.PENANABDD28GjLEk
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,54Please respect copyright.PENANAKSp3APbtgf
利用大約45分鐘的時間,54Please respect copyright.PENANA3hFLJDe7a4
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,54Please respect copyright.PENANAsRu6yfTI7m
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。54Please respect copyright.PENANAZjF9inkKVg
這36條問題分為三組,54Please respect copyright.PENANAt091oYxyIL
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;54Please respect copyright.PENANAlxxbuoKfZs
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,54Please respect copyright.PENANAQJSL2bIGHD
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。54Please respect copyright.PENANAlXoFkE50fG
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事實上,54Please respect copyright.PENANA6YVchVEDal
出題的人很有機心,54Please respect copyright.PENANAVxGfcp2jWv
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,54Please respect copyright.PENANAjP2dciamtH
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,54Please respect copyright.PENANAuTMyhQt5km
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。54Please respect copyright.PENANAnDFI1SdPl0
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電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。54Please respect copyright.PENANAbJEnr9zSDM
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:54Please respect copyright.PENANAouP5oaKotH
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,54Please respect copyright.PENANAn69EaMvFSZ
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。54Please respect copyright.PENANAp3bfb7mq4q
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,54Please respect copyright.PENANAczqfM3s1m8
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。54Please respect copyright.PENANA0XlnLJwBW6
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,54Please respect copyright.PENANA7oPsaFkdA1
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:54Please respect copyright.PENANAeZuvMyEK7T
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出54Please respect copyright.PENANAOPPMPSDnqX
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點54Please respect copyright.PENANAQY18AO3plW
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解54Please respect copyright.PENANATj2ZLqP4L0
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,54Please respect copyright.PENANAlIVEVkEAVK
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,54Please respect copyright.PENANAeidvoNkPUB
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,54Please respect copyright.PENANADOuWcUMjCz
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,54Please respect copyright.PENANAMjGWeBtCd9
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,54Please respect copyright.PENANAWTnU65DqQP
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,54Please respect copyright.PENANAADpAQYngbK
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?54Please respect copyright.PENANAjCJnRYFxjd
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》54Please respect copyright.PENANAGhRMkRitoj
戀愛心理,第九回。54Please respect copyright.PENANAoXVflsGc6u