
71Please respect copyright.PENANAQoHhkCg8hk
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,71Please respect copyright.PENANAj39vFvIvsd
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。71Please respect copyright.PENANA4ZNim2dAhY
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,71Please respect copyright.PENANAhix0K3Uglo
利用大約45分鐘的時間,71Please respect copyright.PENANA9orF5mt9gR
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,71Please respect copyright.PENANATAwy3tHJ7h
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。71Please respect copyright.PENANAjud5YEzE3W
這36條問題分為三組,71Please respect copyright.PENANALOrkMWVas9
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;71Please respect copyright.PENANA4XhPejP4TT
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,71Please respect copyright.PENANAZDyfvgrXNn
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。71Please respect copyright.PENANArfMhx7pFq4
71Please respect copyright.PENANAB2ob5DJMa6
事實上,71Please respect copyright.PENANAtU2JwjYG3Y
出題的人很有機心,71Please respect copyright.PENANAWLmm6lDW6h
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,71Please respect copyright.PENANAUrgFvK9iNR
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,71Please respect copyright.PENANAkSWAa6E6oV
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。71Please respect copyright.PENANAjqEI190LTo
71Please respect copyright.PENANAhTyGHnU5om
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。71Please respect copyright.PENANAFMtnbztZIs
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:71Please respect copyright.PENANASvm395NZAs
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,71Please respect copyright.PENANAPvVzoiODQT
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。71Please respect copyright.PENANAsl7uganfh2
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,71Please respect copyright.PENANAUQUnQcSMcS
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。71Please respect copyright.PENANA9YPdxI7Skm
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,71Please respect copyright.PENANA9KTTcHNkCy
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:71Please respect copyright.PENANAo6v8tbMZAd
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出71Please respect copyright.PENANANu9iB8TKkV
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點71Please respect copyright.PENANArPZX2jUC4e
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解71Please respect copyright.PENANApQDmGa7ykL
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,71Please respect copyright.PENANAxpuq4yVjCq
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,71Please respect copyright.PENANAKd7IPCK5ph
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,71Please respect copyright.PENANAfzjwgY7Pn5
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,71Please respect copyright.PENANA50dkD7NOE6
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,71Please respect copyright.PENANAXXqbnxHFRy
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,71Please respect copyright.PENANAs2msJziS2U
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?71Please respect copyright.PENANACR29r0PF3b
71Please respect copyright.PENANAYcggflhye7
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》71Please respect copyright.PENANAFnAzs7ly6a
戀愛心理,第九回。71Please respect copyright.PENANAyuCKOUBU0P