文: 譚嘉燕 359Please respect copyright.PENANA2L5hxIAb96
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單身不一定會焦慮和寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAYz0KEZbqS6
有拖拍又不一定會不焦慮和不寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAn0E3Rh7InG
但單身是可以寂寞的,359Please respect copyright.PENANAxYKZuDOaq5
寂寞的感覺是可以被容許和接納的。
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有太多閒言閒語和刻版印象,359Please respect copyright.PENANAvWhsKq4gCH
令到單身人士與「寂寞」、「孤癖」、「沒人愛」、「有問題」等負面詞劃上等號,359Please respect copyright.PENANAR1lUHhCe4O
弄到「單身會寂寞」好像是多麼不要得、是多麼失敗的狀態。359Please respect copyright.PENANAeNNDDH5VVv
單身人士明明活得自在,359Please respect copyright.PENANAA4fA6DdXol
但為了不想被標籤負面形象,359Please respect copyright.PENANAt7j85l4qo7
又想為單身一族平反,359Please respect copyright.PENANABDohJHqQC2
也要花力氣刻意解釋自己仍然安好地生活。359Please respect copyright.PENANAgWWeYp5lLJ
同樣地,359Please respect copyright.PENANAmrjxXJWTCg
這亦令到單身人士不敢寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAplIhYeqabR
或者不敢感受和承認自己的寂寞。
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我們知道自己時常會寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAeupS3u6Gr9
卻不願意好好去接納「寂寞」。
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單身一人也可以尋到自己的興趣、人生目標、朋友圈子,359Please respect copyright.PENANA3IMel2ZS8e
可以活得精彩,359Please respect copyright.PENANAChDBecxrGj
同時,單身也是可以寂寞的,359Please respect copyright.PENANA8t7Oj73P2a
It's ok!359Please respect copyright.PENANAu042hjdx4m
寂寞的原因因人而異,359Please respect copyright.PENANAa9BlOUPKbK
可能是因為沒有伴侶而失意,359Please respect copyright.PENANA1poR7bPF3F
也可能是因為不被支持、不被明白而寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAyM26uhst91
但什麼寂寞的原因也好,359Please respect copyright.PENANAxx5OD5pqdI
也是這句:It's ok!
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寂寞的感覺是令人不舒服和不安穩,359Please respect copyright.PENANAhkwf6cQvC2
有點像浮於一片無盡的大海之中,359Please respect copyright.PENANAXLLZHSxw24
好像世界並無自己的立足之地,359Please respect copyright.PENANASUbZttL9Hh
這感覺是可怕的,359Please respect copyright.PENANAKDvObQWsGn
但這感覺並不是羞恥,並不是失敗。359Please respect copyright.PENANAZrYlfWisnJ
每個人都會經歷過這種不佳的狀態,359Please respect copyright.PENANAxi4ZpBJI8y
只差你敢不敢承認自己的渴望與脆弱。
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「情緒」需要被看見、被接納,359Please respect copyright.PENANAgJuq5kqCsY
一旦你可以開放內心去接納自己任何好與壞的情緒,359Please respect copyright.PENANATNz4zKOr4H
切切感受那份「情緒」過後,359Please respect copyright.PENANA31Oeg1JHSj
你學習到與「情緒」和平、安然共處,359Please respect copyright.PENANAyVbdWJopTP
「情緒」就不會再糾纏你,可以漸漸自然流去。
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「寂寞」並不可怕,359Please respect copyright.PENANAXXfTbiQJ8u
只要它來到時你不抗拒它,359Please respect copyright.PENANAGSQDIIF8nP
不要故作沒事跟自己說:359Please respect copyright.PENANApQNuyaWApy
我不可以寂寞。359Please respect copyright.PENANA0s4GDrW9JY
也不要強硬地想一時三刻就能一手掃開「寂寞」,359Please respect copyright.PENANAyxxgv3lsQM
愈抗拒它,它就愈存在。359Please respect copyright.PENANAKXgy4qQGvs
慢慢一步一步接納「寂寞」就是自己的一部分,359Please respect copyright.PENANAwR7OR7shTu
就會沒那麼難受。
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你是可以不OK的,359Please respect copyright.PENANACXw9sSeEpv
你是可以寂寞的,359Please respect copyright.PENANA5nseN5tAFF
It's ok!359Please respect copyright.PENANAcv9eN4A3zg
你要學習面對自己的寂寞,359Please respect copyright.PENANAR7NBrhkscz
也要容許自己有「做不到」的過程。
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